A Letter To My Unborn Son

May 19, 2015  - By Gretchen Saffles

When I was single, I wrote letters to my future husband. Starting in the 7th grade, I committed to the Lord that I would wait for my future husband. I poured my heart into letters over the next 12 years. These letters were stored safely in a box and were prayed over on many occasions. They served as a testament to the journey God took me throughout singleness. As I wrote, the Lord engrained this truth in my heart – Jesus is all I need. As simple as this may sound, it took years and years for me to fully grasp the truth. And even after all of those years and being married to the man I waited for, I still am learning the fullness of the truth that Jesus is more than enough.

In less than a week (and possibly even this day), I will hold my newborn son in my arms for the first time. As I write this, he is squirming around in my tummy, waiting to make his grand entrance into the world! The adventure of motherhood will no doubt be one that is humbling, exciting, and sanctifying. Throughout pregnancy, the Lord has brought me back to that same truth that I was learning in singleness – Jesus is all I need. I know that the coming days will be filled with reminders of His faithfulness, His joy, and His strength. As a soon-to-be momma, I feel incredibly inadequate and humbled to raise a son. This is a great calling from the Lord.

I long to be a mother who prays earnestly for my son, just as I prayed for my husband and still do. This letter below is one that I wrote for my son. I plan on collecting them throughout the years to give to him one day when the Lord makes it clear it is time for him to read them. I pray that they are a testimony to God’s faithfulness and a fragrant offering to the Lord. 

To Our Unborn Son,

It seems like just yesterday we found out we were having you. The memory brings tears to my eyes. I was so afraid when I took that pregnancy test. Afraid of what the future would hold. Afraid of my inadequacy to be a mother. Afraid of the changes that I knew would inevitably come. In the midst of the fears that flooded my heart came an overwhelming joy in knowing that God had deemed it His perfect timing to bless us with you. In those first moments that we realized we were going to be parents and our life was about to change forever. God met us in our fear and handed us a load of joy and excitement that trumped the worries and unknowns. In His sovereign timing, He gave you to us to love, cherish, and teach about the ways of His kingdom. We began to pray for you and to thank our Creator for knitting your tiny, perfect body together in my womb (Psalm 139:13-14). And God began to do a mighty work in our hearts preparing us to be your parents. 

Nine months seemed like forever when we first found out. I’ll never forget the day we finally were able to tell the world that we were having a baby. It was right around Thanksgiving and I felt like I was about to burst with gratitude knowing you were growing in my belly. Everyone rejoiced at your life! I want you to always know that from the moment you were in the womb, people rejoiced at your life. You are a gift to this world and a blessing straight from the hand of Creator God. He formed you and planned your life with a purpose and a mission. We saw this from the very beginning!

Up until this point we still didn’t know if you were a boy or a girl, but deep within my heart I felt that you were a boy. Your daddy did, too. We found out right before Christmas, and it was the best surprise to learn your gender! I remember looking at your precious face on the ultrasound screen and hearing your heartbeat. You were wiggling around and had your hands next to your mouth. We had the nurse write down if you were a boy or a girl and had planned on opening it later that evening. By the time we got to the car, I couldn’t wait any longer! I begged your dad to open it, and while sitting in the parking deck at the hospital, he opened the note and read out loud “It’s a boy!”

I remember sitting at home by myself later that day thinking about what a privilege it would be to raise a man of God. I consider it not only a privilege, but a high calling from the Lord. There is no greater thing on this earth than to be a worshipper of God. We pray that you will worship and love Jesus Christ with your entire heart. We pray that you will see the call of the great commission as greater than your own desires and dreams. We pray that you would be a man of conviction who loves his neighbor as himself, stands firm on the truth of God’s Word, and is willing to go to the ends of the earth to share the gospel with those who have not heard. 

Deep down, I hope and pray that you are just like your daddy. He is a mighty warrior and man of God. He loves fiercely, works whole-heartedly, and fears the Lord fully. He is going to be the most amazing dad to you. He will take you on all kinds of adventures and teach you what it means to be a God-fearing man. Know that he loves you so much. He is my hero, and he will be yours, too. 

Our precious son, know that we prayed for you before you even took a breath in this world. We believe that God has a plan for your life, and we are so grateful that we will get to be your parents! Before I met your daddy, I prayed Joshua 1:9 over him – that he would be strong and courageous in the Lord. I am continuing to pray this for you! Specifically, I pray that you would be a brave warrior for Jesus. As you grow up, we hope to lead to live a life that is contrary to this world. It is our deepest desire to model what it looks like to fear the Lord. We want to take you on adventures all over the world, but most importantly, we want you to know the adventure of being a follower of Jesus and living for the life is to come in eternity. 

As we have prayed, God showed us the beautiful truth of Psalm 127:3-5 –

“Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.” 

You are our arrow, our precious son. You are a blessing, a joy, and our brand new adventure!

It is now your birth week, and we could meet you at anytime. Last night I started crying thinking about the joy that will flood my heart when they lay you on my chest for the first time. I can’t wait to hold you! Until that moment and until the day that you read this letter, know that you are loved dearly.

You are our next adventure.


Your Momma

(above photos by Emily Hooten)

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  1. This is so sweet! I love everything you have said and prayed for your precious son. He is already so blessed to have you and your husband as his parents – I am praying for you this week for a safe (and hopefully fast and easy) delivery and recovery. You will be such an amazing mother! My husband and I don’t yet have children of our own, but if one day the Lord chooses to bless us in that way, I will be coming back to this post to read again (and again and again). Thank you for letting the Lord use you in each season of life – you are such an inspiration to me!

  2. Stefanie says:

    Precious!! Thanks for sharing. I have a son about to turn 7 and a daughter about to turn 2. I pray over them daily…but your post is helping to push me to pray deeper. God is so good..so thankful I came across your post. Congrats on your firstborn…God bless you! Being a Mama is the greatest blessing /adventure!

  3. chefvick30083@yahoo.com says:

    Both of my children are now grown, one is 37 and the other 35. However, I can still feel God’s pleasure when my husband and I were raising both of them. We put our entire lives into making them thriving, working and fabulous members of society, with a good work ethic. The Lord was gracious in guiding us the whole way. I cant begin to enumerate how many mistakes we made during those years, but we kept trying and Jesus honored our efforts. Now I am throwing my life into helping to raise my soon to be 9 yr old granddaughter. The Lord has allowed me the pleasure of teaching about and leading her to Jesus. I have received way more blessings than I could ever have dreamed from when I first held them all in my arms to today. There is no greater privilege or joy on this earth, which holds more eternal significance, than to be entrusted with raising children. Despite our best efforts, there will be great depths of heartache during the time. However, given the opportunity, I would do it all over again. Praise be to Jesus, for your son. He will consume your heart and you will willingly give it to him. You are about to embark on the ride of your life! PTL!

  4. sav Slowey says:

    This is so precious. There is no feeling like the feeling when they lay that first baby on you. Cannot even explain it in words. My babies are 19 and 22 and I remember each like it was yesterday. God bless you and your husband for a healthy delivery. xo

  5. amanna.joscelin@gmail.com says:

    I came across your letter when searching for inspiration to write a letter to my yet unborn son. As I read it, I felt like the thoughts that were unorganized in my mind were framed into a wonderful and artistic prose. Hope I have your permission to take thoughts and ideas from this letter while I write a letter to my son.

    • gretchen@lifelivedbeautifully.com says:

      Oh I love that so much Maverick! Absolutely! Feel free to use this letter as inspiration for your note to your little boy! What a sweet season you are about to enter into!

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